Tuesday 2 August 2016

Indecision

I once went to a *Mindfulness* weekend and a person asked the question:  How can mindfulness help me to stop smoking?  I manage to quite for a few weeks or months, then I end up starting again right where I left off.  It's been like this for years.

The mindfulness leader made a simple statement:  Your inability to quit smoking is because you have not made a conscious decision.  Either you're a smoker, acknowledging the impact and damage that it's doing to you but being at peace with that, or you decide that you're a nonsmoker in which case you will take all possible steps to not smoke.  Your indecision on this topic is why you're in a cycle of stopping and starting.

In some ways I feel it's the same way on my drinking.  Should I be a weekend only drinker?  Is Sunday ok?  Or is Sunday ok if I don't drink on Friday?  And on and on.

At the gym yesterday, the young manager, age 25 was struggling with her own routine.  Only me and the other 40 year old lady were able to do it, a lot of core work, abs.

The instructor made a statement:  "Too much drinking on the weekend, especially yesterday.  I'm giving it up...until Friday."

K, the other 40 year old blurts out, "do you seriously drink every day?"

Instructor:  "Well yes, but only moderately during the week, binge drinking on the weekend."

Granted she may still be in the student mentality as she just finished her degree in June.  However I just want to smack her upside the head as the spare tire she's carrying around her middle would be so much easier to lose now than once she hits the middle age spread years.

So far, the gym is keeping me somewhat in check.  I am struggling that there are no classes on Friday, Saturday or Sunday and I don't have a lot of activities to otherwise fill my time.  I'm more motivated in a class than going solo on a treadmill or through the park.  Once again I need to find a way to alleviate the boredom trigger as when my weekend is filled up with activities or I am the driver, then I'm not bothered about it.