Monday 30 January 2017

Day 28

A quiet Monday.  Another Monday of working out prior to eating.  Supposedly this burns more fat.  I'm not sure yet but it isn't doing any harm.

A completely ridiculous and wasted weekend.  OH's friend (3 hours by car, direction North) was having a party to celebrate turning 40.  We did the drive up on Saturday afternoon, I was well-stocked with my non-alcoholic fizzy and fizzy water.  We had our pillows and blankets along as we were going to spend the night and drive back Sunday.

It was a mixed group, 15 - 20 adults all around 40 plus 2 older parents.  6 or 7 kids aged 6-10.  One 19 year old son of the birthday girl.  In an ironic twist, the 19 year old was probably the most sober, delicately sipping a can of beer.

No one gave me any hassle about not drinking, the birthday girl told people I was 'doing dry January til the end'.  Her other half said he admired that, he had done the month but had decided earlier to go until her birthday, so 27 nights.  I was the only sober adult in the house by around 7 PM.

As the night rolled on the fizzy and Stella were plentiful.  The birthday cake came out, the kids did some dj'ing on the computer and the dancing started.

Fast forward to 130 AM, many had headed home for the night but a group still going strong.  We were sneaking off to bed when an altercation started, the 19 year old son and one of the 40's males had some history, doors started slamming, walls were getting punched.  Not wanting to dwell on the back story or the reasons.  You can imagine the ridiculousness of this situation, some males hyped on testosterone and Stella, now the step father became involved.  Add in some shrieking females.

I told my other half we were not spending the night.  Everyone shouting and hitting things.  Not safe.  He was not comfortable leaving his 19 year old Godson outnumbered, especially as he is physically small, smaller than many of the Northern lasses there.  Queue more fighting activity in the house.  By now I'm standing outside on the street with the car loaded up.  No double glazing so neighbors are starting to come out.  The 19 year old comes out and is going to get on his moped but my other half tells him not to as he has had some beers and it's now 2 AM.  To be fair he was the most sober so had the foresight to lock the front door, leaving them locked in and buying us two minutes to get away as I ordered the 19 year old into the car.  His stepfather punched out the window of the front door.  My other half and the sister of the stepfather agreed that my OH would call the police on a domestic.

At 215 in the morning I'm driving around an unfamiliar town as we go to the 24 hour McDonalds.

So re-grouping on our plans the 19 year old has swelling on his hand so we take him to the emergency room.  At 245 on a Saturday in a Northern England town it's mostly males involved in altercations as the pubs shut for 230. 

My OH connects with the lad's mother, the police have since been and the stepfather is on the way to the same hospital.  So my OH had to stay around for his arrival, having alerted the hospital staff.  So we left both of them there under their care.  My OH wanted to get a hotel but by now I was powered on adrenaline and two bottles of non-alcoholic fizzy (sugared up).  So we set off at 3 AM making it back to our safe little corner of Essex as the clock was striking 6.

While I drove my OH was fielding updates from the boy's mother.  At 6 I took a shower and went to bed until 930.  We spent the day like zombies, no gym session.

The son and stepfather were both seen at A&E and took a taxi home together at 6 AM.  Both have hand difficulties which will require follow up this week.  The stepfather will require surgery due to the glass/tendons.  As he works with his hands he is out of work for the week.

This whole situation was the result of alcohol.  I cannot even begin to type my devastation of seeing the children crying, observing this situation.  I told my OH, never again will I be going up there.  If anything, this will extend my 30 days a little longer.    


Wednesday 18 January 2017

Day 16

Just a small story.  OH has been doing well on his drinking break.  Granted he's more of a moderate drinker, but I'd call him more of a consistent drinker.  He has no problem stopping at one, but often it will be one or two beers a day five days per week. 

He's now on day 12, something he hasn't done since forever.  It's nice that he's shown a bit of solidarity with me on dry Jan, he's exceeded my expectations.  Plus he's lost a kilo.

His boozy friend texts him, they work near each other in London.

Boozy friend:  I'm stopping in for one before getting the 630 train.  Join me at x? 
(x is a cheap and nasty pub, a chain with overpriced, lackluster beers.)

OH:  No mate, need to get home and do the shopping, out of food.

OH's later commentary to me:  Now that I've been 11 days without alcohol, my next drink is going to be a nice beer at a proper pub! 

Too cute, I must admit that it gave me a giggle that he currently has such high standards!

Sunday 15 January 2017

Day 13

I find around day 8-9 I start to feel good and by day 13 I get some energy.

OH had to work today.  He works in technology and occasionally gets overtime when he needs to do things when users are not in the office.  In the past I would have cracked open the fizzy just after eating lunch so I'd be on the second bottle by the time he finished.  I'd be in no fit state to cook dinner so it would either be him cooking what I had prepped or us being lazy and having frozen pizza.

Today was an entirely different experience.  Off he went at 8 AM.  As it was an early start I had a coffee and caught up on the news online.  I do freelance writing on the side and I have a deadline the week after next.  Normally I do everything the night before but instead I started my work already.

Then I popped onto youtube to find some good fitness videos since my gym isn't open today.  I did a sweaty 40 minutes and am now feeling good.

OH is on day 9 of this AF lark.  He had mentioned that not drinking last Sat/Sun he thought that he'd feel better Monday morning but instead he had a headache.  I challenged him to keep it up another week to get the alcohol truly out of his system and to try it again.  Fingers crossed he feels a positive difference.

So there is a chicken in the oven for OH and the cat.  I have a piece of fish.  Then we have cheesy garlic potatoes (Oh so many calories to burn without the drinking!) and beans.

Looking forward to a hot bubble bath and a restful sleep to be bright and clear on Monday.  

Friday 13 January 2017

Day 11

An awesomely tough but good gym day.  Still doing ok on the food front, making sure to keep the clean calories up to match the gym activity.  Not eating garbage, no crisps or chips.

I remember in dry October I reached a point where first I lost the fat bloat/water retention from my face and then I lost a little weight overall and further weight disappeared from my face.  I am pleased that the same thing has happened again, it started yesterday.

I feel like I dropped five years from my dowdy and sagging middle aged 40's appearance!  The double chin has been minimized!

I take little peeks at myself as I pass my hall mirror, just amazed.

Overall, I've held steady all week at 58.3 kilos.  I've knocked off a kilo since I started dry January.  I'll probably stay in that range but might go down another kilo.  Keeping in mind the trade-offs of muscle vs. fat. As long as I keep toning up like this and with good gym energy, the scale weight is more for informational purposes than incentive.

I hope everyone is enjoying a good start to the weekend.  Terribly cold and windy here in my corner of the UK, keeping cozy with tealights and a warm cat.


Wednesday 11 January 2017

Day 9

Productivity unleashed.  Went to do 30 minutes of strength training at the gym and ended up staying for a zumba class too, felt good to get in some cardio.  Hiit tomorrow and Friday.

Storms coming to my part of the UK tomorrow and Friday, sleet and hail.  Did my shopping already so not needing anything before Monday.

Once I get past the 6 day mark I start to see and feel tangible benefits.  I sleep so fully!  No more 3 and 4 AM wake-ups.  If I were to ever stop drinking permanently, it would probably be due to the sleep.

OH is on day 5 and still committed.  He's back on myfitnesspal to control his weight as well.  For him, sweets are the equivalent of alcohol, just no willpower.  He's already warned me that he's due a break Sunday evening as he has to work that day, so he plans to enjoy one on the train home.  Fair enough as he normally only goes 3 days at best, although he's a moderate drinker so he doesn't quite benefit from the long stretches of alcohol free days as the rest of us.  He's going to go in one week stretches so fair enough.

I'm a little disappointed, his sis and her OH dropped out on Jan 5 and have given up for the month.  That's one of the things that troubles me about dry January, that people make it an all or nothing.

I follow another forum where people set a target at the beginning of each month, be it 5, 12, 20, whatever number of AF days.  Then each month you set your target a little higher until it's 30/30.  From the forum postings, it helps a lot for people who are good planners or boredom drinkers.  Whatever it takes.


Monday 9 January 2017

Day 7

Nothing much exciting to write about, except that I'm still on my dry January streak.  Overdid some furniture moving over the weekend on top of the 'welcome back to the new year' full-on week of gym sessions so ended up skipping the gym tonight and probably tomorrow, perhaps even the rest of the week.  Aack.

The cat has been up and down the past 2 months.  At age 19 suddenly developed kidney disease followed by a tumour.  So now we've moved to palliative care and she's on some intense kitty pain relievers that cause her to sleep for hours.  The remaining parts of her day involve eating copious amounts of freshly cooked chicken.

The boyfriend is on day 3 of his two dry weeks.  So proud of him to go to the pub on Saturday when everyone around him was drinking and he had a coke.



 

Saturday 7 January 2017

Dry January success stories

The Daily Mail here in the UK isn't necessarily the best source of journalism, but I love reading Dry January stories and how one small month of abstaining from alcohol makes such a big impact on one's health:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4082714/We-proof-Dry-January-really-worth-doing-5-drinkers-gave-alcohol-month-reveal-astonishing-results.html

Interesting how the ladies were more prolific drinkers than the gentlemen.

Over here, day 5 and counting...

Monday 2 January 2017

Roll on January

I'm becoming much more of a blog reader rather than a poster.

My moderating December turned out better than expected due to the flu.  I ended up nailing my off days and gaining a few extra credits on my 'on days' as I felt so awful.  Extra brownie points earned due to driving on Christmas day.  It was originally planned to be a walk to the pub but I didn't have it in me, just so cold and sniffly.  So I drove and had a coffee, ha!  I did have some drinks later in the evening but the day ended up quieter and calmer than expected.

My 'dry Jan' officially starts Jan 3rd.  I need the routine of work/gym, days off are my downfall.  As I did dry October I thought it was time to kick it up a notch.  When I came back from holidays in November I mostly gave up caffeine, so thought I'd try a mostly clean eating month too.  So no frozen pizza or general garbage.  We're not quite veganuary, but going in that direction.

I have done dry January for over 10 years prior to meeting the boyfriend.  I'm a little surprised in the UK at the hoopla over not drinking in Jan as my Irish colleagues turned me on to it and it seems to be commonplace with them.  I've done it for years with no fanfare.

My OH and his sis both have birthdays in Jan so earlier years have been derailed by this, and that he doesn't get it.

This year is different, his sis and her OH are attempting dry Jan (again).  I challenged him to do two weeks/weekends, that I would buy him dinner on each week that he does a week.  So he committed to two full weekends.

To say I am pleased is an understatement.  Now I just need to keep up my end of the bargain and I can do it!